Love can be very confusing at times! Kaboom! Magazine wants to help you with this crazy little thing called love in the form of our sex/relationship segment entitled “That’s The Way Love Goes.” #TTWLG is where Kaboom! Magazine allows fans and viewers of our exclusive website the chance to have their questions on sex, heartbreak, relationships, and love to be answered by their favorite celebrities/entertainment personalities. Today, Kaboom! fans get lovely advice from LFL athlete Amanda Ruller. This female football star has been running over and past competitors better than some actual NFL running backs the past couple of years and when she not scoring touchdowns, she’s one of the top fitness models on the west coast. Let’s see how Amanda tackles issues such as boring sex, honesty, sex & gym problems, and many more.
Amanda Ruller Info:
Age: 27
Zodiac Sign: Pisces
Hometown: Regina, Saskatchewan
Occupation: LFL Athlete/Fitness Model
Instagram: @amandaruller
Twitter: @AMANDAbolic
Facebook: facebook.com/amanadarullerLFL/
Snapchat: @Ruller2a
Personal Website: www.AMANDAbolic.com
If you could have the career of one person (past or present) who it would have to be…..: J.J Watt (Houston Texans)
Does True Love exist: Yes, and you will know it when you find it!
You know you’re in love when….: When you can push each other to grow and reach your dreams together.
Why should someone take your advice on love: It’s a fresh prospective on the situation you might not of considered otherwise.
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Hello Amanda,
I’m 33 years old and I’ve always had this issue of finding the act of sex boring. I lost my virginity when I was a freshman in high school and it was a great experience, but since then, the people whom I have had sex with more often than not I find I get bored very quickly and become inadequate to perform. I’ve tried different positions and mixing things up a little bit but I can’t really seem to get into it entirely. I love foreplay and can spend lots of time on it though, but in my current relationship I’m disappointed in myself for not being able to do better and am hoping for some tips and advice into how I can make my sexual encounters more entertaining and find myself willing to have sex for longer than ten minutes. I’m sure I sound ridiculous, but that’s my problem. Could you give me some tips and advice? It would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
Ms. Lazy Daisy
Dear Ms. Lazy Daisy
That does not sound ridiculous at all! Everyone will go through this one time or another. Something fun to try is to embrace technology by just sexting him or FaceTime him in the afternoon and role play of the sex-fantasy scenarios that you like. This will have you craving each other even more because you have to only use your words until you see other later.
Another fun one is to have you partner meet you somewhere for dinner but act as if you are strangers. Role play a fun sexy scene and then end up taking each other home. Create a challenge. Grab a karma sutra book and try to go through as many positions as you can until someone cums first. Talking about what turns you on is a great way to mix up things even more a really fun way to get what you want in bed. Hope these tips help!
Sincerely,
Amanda R.
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Hey Amanda,
I’ve been a gay male for about 6 years now. I have been with plenty of men, and it almost always led to anal intercourse, which is never good nor bad. I’m experienced at and indifferent to anal intercourse in general, it turns me off. I don’t like making out, nor do I particularly like my genitals being touched, either. Thus, it is nearly impossible for anyone other than myself to bring me to climax. I’m more of an observer, so watching a man being heavily stimulated (more so by himself or me than by someone else) is one of the few things I can actually get myself off to. Even though I mostly fake it, my boyfriend says I’m great in bed. He doesn’t know that usually I wait for him to go to sleep or leave in order for me to go to the bathroom and finish myself off, and I get terrible anxiety almost every damn day thinking about that fact. I want to stop lying to my boyfriend, but I don’t want to tell him that his doesn’t make me orgasm during intercourse either because I know it will be a VERY long time before he forgives me and wants to have sex. Is there any way I can kill two birds with one stone? Or is it just better for me to tell him the truth and find some way we can work through this together? Any insight would be appreciated.
Sincerely,
Cumming No Time Soon
Dear Cumming No Time Soon,
One of the key parts of a good intimate relationship is honesty. Deliberately lying to a loved one for the sake of not hurting their feelings, yet damaging your own feelings and therefore creating on-going stress, is not beneficial for anyone involved.
Given that you have identified what you are sexually drawn to enjoy, that being self-pleasure or voyeurism, and not physical sexual connection with another person, you should focus on what brings you pleasure. Once you have determined what it is that brings you pleasure, have a frank talk with your partner and explain what turns you on. Ask your partner what really turns them on – you may be surprised with their answer!
Many people find it difficult to come to orgasm “with” a partner and the whole act of sexual intimacy and the big “O” should not be the means to an end. What is important is that you are both enjoying each other, with the goal of just that – enjoyment.
There are many websites and books to give specific sexual ideas what couples can do to strengthen their intimate relationship. Both of you can then decide what you would like to explore, what works, what doesn’t work – experimenting is fun!
Wouldn’t you want to know how to be the best sexual partner you could be?
Sincerely,
Amanda R.
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Hello Amanda,
I’m a 26 years old fitness model who recently started competing full-time a few months ago. I’ve been an athlete all my life I even won two state softball titles in high school. I met my boyfriend during a softball tournament my sophomore year of high school and I will say, whoever came up with the theory “Oppsites Attract” was defiantly talking about us. He was only at the tournament to watch his cousin play, but other than that he was a huge nerd and Xbox gamer who would spend most of his weekends playing call of duty with his gamer buddies. People always wondered why we were together? But the conversations and chemistry we had with each other was undeniable. We’ve been dating for 5 years now and a couple months back, we moved in to an apartment together. I go to the gym about 4-5 times a week and recently my boyfriend started coming with me because he wants to have a better body. My boyfriend very inexperienced when it comes to the gym and it doesn’t help that people notice that I lift more than he does. Guys at the gym are so cruel to him as they laugh or make smart comments when he’s on the weights. I even had a guy try and talk to me in front of him saying “I need someone who gonna push in the gym.” My boyfriend did get very upset but he also was extremely embarrassed as he felt helpless because the guy was a lot bigger than him and there was no way he was gonna be able to kick his ass. I did try to defend my boyfriend, but all I did was make matters worse. Since then he has not wanted to go to the gym with me and if he does go with me, he doesn’t stand by or workout with me at all. I know we’re complete opposites but I love to workout with him because that’s one of the very few times we get to do things together. Is there any way I can get his confidence back and have him return as my workout partner?
Sincerely,
Could you spot me?
Dear Could You Spot Me,
You are just like me! I am a hardcore athlete but I am attracted to the exact opposite of that. Something that might work would be to let him take you to do something he is really good at or an activity he enjoys doing.
When he is in his element this might boost his confidence and he will see that you are trying something he excels at and may be out of your element. Let him know that if you do something he enjoys doing that he should be able to come to the gym with you. You can also make him feel needed at the gym. Ask him to spot your lift or count your reps.
Another good one is to ask him for advice or let him teach you something new at the gym. Just letting him feel needed will create a bond much stronger than some idiot saying he’s no good for you. Something fun to do, if he is good with tech stuff he could take some training videos of you at the gym and you guys could create some training videos for others to watch. That way he also feels needed at the gym to help build your brand. A relationship is about growing and learning from each other.
Sincerely,
Amanda R.
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What’s Up Amanda,
It’s very embarrassing, but I do this to avoid hurting people. Most people like me would tend to sleep around and not have a relationship, instead, I “masturbate” and not have a relationship. I have had relationships before in the past, but they never went very well, but now I’m sexually charged by my close female friend who recently expressed her feelings towards me. I badly want to have sex with her, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings, I don’t know how to control myself because she’s so attractive and we were kissing and hugging but then some tension grew, we started kissing passionately and I DID almost had sex with her, but I knew that if it happened, we’d be more than just friends but the problem with me is my sex drive is so high, if I was her partner, I’d want sex like nearly every day non-stop until my penis fell off, that’s how bad it is. I ask my doctor for medication to stop me from having sexual urges or desires and he said he can’t give me anything unless it’s seriously out of control like if I was committing crime etc. How would you deal with this situation if you were in my shoes?
Sincerely,
I want her sex….ALOT!
Dear I want her sex….ALOT!,
This is where you need to be 100% honest. If I was in your shoes I would sit your friend down and let her know absolutely everything. Let her know that you are nervous about things escalating to a relationship quick and let her know if she was your girl you would want her very often. Most girls would be into that. Honestly, telling her everything and putting yourself out there is the best thing to do. What if she has the same energy towards being sexual as well. You never know until you put it out there and ask. This is key moving forward with the girl as just a friend or maybe more. Discuss what both your expectations are and if they match up then go for it. But please have this talk before you sleep with her. You could lose a friend in the process if you do not put everything on the table before moving forward.
Sincerely,
Amanda R.
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Hey Amanda,
My long-term boyfriend is going through some sort of 30-life crisis. He doesn’t know if he should look for a new job, wants to move to a new city and, now, doesn’t know if he wants a relationship with me. I feel like he’s so stressed he’s starting to tangle our relationship with everything else. I’m hurt and need some major space from all the bombs he’s been dropping this week. We agreed to give each other space after the stress this week, but I can tell he’s getting a little nervous because he’s double texting after almost every message. It’s not that I am playing games, I just have so much on my mind I don’t even know what to talk to him about. I just want everything to go back to normal. Will time and space really help us or will that just disconnect us even more? Ugh, what do I do?
Sincerely,
Crisis Alert
Dear Crisis Alert,
This is a good test of how strong your relationship is. Space is actually a good option right now. I say this because if you give him some space and he sees what life is like without you and how different things are he might realize he made a mistake. This can only strengthen what you had with him. I understand that you don’t know what to say to him right now and that you don’t want to talk to him. I’ve felt like that many times too. It’s not that you don’t want to talk, you just don’t know what to say to help the situation. This is normal. Give him the space and then when you are ready contact him and say you would like to talk face to face. Let him know where you stand and ask if he sees you having a future with him. I know it sucks but you need to know. Don’t invest in something that doesn’t invest back into you.
Sincerely,
Amanda R.
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Hi Amanda,
When travelling on a business trip six months ago, I met a girl from Philly who was working at the office I had to visit. We connected really well and spent 2 weeks together while I was out there. I flew back home and ever since we met, we’ve been talking on FaceTime every day. We’ve talked about our previous relationships and she mentioned she is still very close to her ex-boyfriend even though he treated her like crap when they were together. He wants her back and has feelings for her and she’s told him only if he changes would she consider it, so I’ve asked her “What if he does offer to change?”, she replies “he probably won’t change”, without giving me a proper yes or no answer. Also she mentioned after breaking up with him, he has sweet talked her into sex many, many, many times…apparently his sweet talk is her constant weakness. She talks about hanging and talking with him often and even getting the occasional massage, but she says that ever since she’s met me nothing sexual has happened. I know she really likes me, and I’m prepared to leave everything behind and spend a lot of money to go see her. But I feel very uncomfortable about this whole situation and I have mentioned this to her, but she implies they are just friends and that I have nothing to worry about. Even though I’m still friends with my ex, I keep it as the most-simplest friendship because I don’t want my future girlfriends to feel threatened or uncomfortable in anyway. What are your thoughts, what do I say to her if anything? Am I overreacting? I just want to feel comfortable and not feel threatened by a guy that knows all her weaknesses and can use that to his advantage any time he wants.
Sincerely,
Long Distance Sweet Talkers
Dear Long Distance Sweet Talkers,
You are not overreacting at all. That is a big deal. Especially because you want to invest so much in this girl and you have no idea if she will just run back to her ex. That is always a gambling when entering a new relationship with anyone really.
The fact that she has not slept with him since you two have been talking is a good thing. Most women are more emotional lovers. The will have sex for emotional attachment rather than just for fun. I feel like she is truly over this guy and being honest with you. Also, the fact that she told you all these details shows she really trusts you and wants to be open. Hold onto this girl. She likes you and she sounds like she can talk to you about anything on her mind. That is what a relationship should look like. Be straight forward with her, let her know you’re down to take things to the next level but not if the ex-boyfriend is still on her mind. Being casual friends with an ex is fine. But there has to be boundaries and you need to set them before moving forward. Be confident in who you are and see this other guy is lame. Treat her like a princess and I promise she won’t look back twice if this guy comes lurking around. She will see how good she has it with you. Women don’t go backwards in lifestyle. When they have something good they stay.
Sincerely,
Amanda R.
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